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If a 26 year old friend were dating a 21 year old, I'd likely question the .. Also face early thirties deosn't look that much different to late 20's its. Is it OK for a 26 year old to date a 21 year old? Or is the Once people pass the 20 year old mark, there isnt so much difference in age. If you can Everyone was on their case when they were dating, especially her family. Without going too much into my dating career, the main factor in all of my glorified older men enough (don't worry, young, something lads.
I think you need a lot more confidence and grounding, but that's just me. I'm not a MILF or a Cougar and spent most of the early years of the relationship worrying about the age difference, it has never bothered him. You like who you like, ask her out and if she says yes I hope you both have fun. If it becomes serious you won't care about the age difference, and if it's only a bit of fun for both of you, you might learn something about yourself and women.
Forget about what people on OKCupid say, what people say online to make themselves look "cooler" rarely has any actually relationship to what they'd do if they had the chance in real life. Also face early thirties deosn't look that much different to late 20's its not like she's got grey hair and a walking stick, no one is going to look twice.
Are you sure that they've failed at competing? I suspect that men who date older women have realized that the only way to win at "my girlfriend is younger than yours" is not to play. Put another way, do you really want the respect of men who think this way about women?
Would it really make you feel better about yourself? This is not enough data to say anything about you. In fact, the only thing this tells me is that you are into this particular 31 year old woman. It could, maybe, suggest that you're more into 31 year olds than other women.
If you really need to be older than your lady, just wait until you're 32 and start hitting on the 31 year olds. Ta da, problem solved. Or you could realize you're being ridiculous and ask this one out now.
Live your life, man. A week later he turned 21 and 2 weeks after that I was It didn't last, but he's still one of my favorite people in the world. We still root for each other. And it wasn't because of our ages that it didn't work out. But even if it was, that doesn't mean it wouldn't have been worth it. But the fact that it concerns you and you have to ask this question says to me, pretty strongly, that you personally shouldn't date this woman.
They have been together for 37 years and are happy by all accounts.
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So yeah, it works. Whomever started that cougar and milf shit should die in a fire. As a year old, I dated a year old. In all cases, it was two people being attracted to each other, not two numbers. Just be open and honest, listen to both your heart and your mind, and it is hard for things to go too wrong.
My wife is 5 years older than I am. We met and knew within 3 days that we were meant for each other, and we've been married for 30 years. I never cared a bit about the age difference. She, on the other hand, never seemed to get over the age gap.
Thus, we only lasted a couple of months. But, had she been OK with the gap as I wasthe relationship may have lasted a good bit longer. TLDR - Age difference is only a problem if you think it is.
And honestly, it's normal to freak out about this stuff even if you are super-enlightened. I consider myself super-feminist, but still had this idea in my head that women don't date younger men, because they're less mature, and make worse relationships.
My fiance reminded me that we share the same cultural touch points. Y craze that lasted all of about five minutes? That said, while it's normal to worry about it briefly, if you stick with these concerns, it might mean that there are some lingering insecurities.
I've done it at 30 and She was a little uncomfortable with the idea for the first month, worrying that maybe she was too old for me, but it turned out to be fine.
We just enjoyed the hell out of each other. Question any assumption that requires you to judge a woman negatively for being a woman and doing the same damn thing as you. In other words, either a five year age difference between consenting adults is creepy or it isn't. The older party being a woman doesn't somehow make it wrong, that's a sexist double standard and it's bullshit. Think of it this way: Does that sound like any kind of healthy or happy way to approach a relationship? Women are people, just like you.
She was 42 and he was 30 when they met at work. They fell in love and were partners; they had two sons and raised them. They were together for 21 years. I guess you'd have to ask Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins. We lasted 10 great years together. When I was 42, my boyfriend was We made a great couple, and were together for years as well.
If you're 26, would you date a 20 year old?
In both relationships, I very much felt we were equals. Two people, well met, who happened to have an age gap. The only times it got twitchy was when we'd go out to bars, and the guy would get carded, and the doorman's face would contort in confusion, trying to decide which would be less awkward: To answer your question: Magic 8 Ball says: The cougarMILF protection squad has yet to come knocking at our door.
Seriously, not only is the five year age difference not an issue, but 31 is not old by any stretch of the imagination - except that which has decided that 30 year old women are past their expiration date and everyone past that point needs pity and wrinkle cream. This is the segment of our society that sells magazines telling women to look younger and telling men that younger women are more valuable.
Don't listen to it. It's not that it's not okay to date them, I'm just not into them. And maybe if I got to know them I would change my mind, but just from looking at them, I can appreciate a good looking year old, but I am just not attracted to them. So ask her out first, see how it goes, and don't overthink the age thing.
Hopefully she doesn't think the same way I do. Which leads me to believe that some single guy wrote this on a dating site because he can't meet someone. Is that really who you want to believe? I'm a 31 year old female. If some year old dude referred to me as a cougar, I'd probably smack him right upside the head.
Ask her out if you are ok with dating an older woman. Further, she puts off a lot of other signals as well, such as touching me randomly on the arm, neck, trying to tickle me, etc. All of these things she only does to me. However, whether she is interested in me or not is not what I'm asking for advice on. What I am more concerned with is the age difference. I find her very attractive, and we have a great deal in common, so we're able to sit and talk to each other very easily -- that "spark" is definitely there.
I'm of course concerned about how successful a mental connection on a relationship level would be given our age differences, however, I am more concerned with the "perception" of those around us, her parents, etc. Is it OK for a 26 year old to date a 21 year old? At an insecure period in her life, around the time she was finishing school, another cataclysmic event took place when you and her father decided to separate. I'm not blaming this on the demise of your marriage - a sad scenario that many people face - merely suggesting that there may be a connection between the departure of her father and her embrace of a father figure.
It will also have contributed to her feelings of low self-esteem, which also explains why she is lingering at home despite the fractious relationship with you. Her feelings of low self-worth will only be exacerbated by your antagonistic approach to her relationship. What incentive is there to confide in you when she already knows that you disapprove wholeheartedly and want to force her to end the affair? Applying a less judgmental and more sympathetic approach would go a long way to achieving your goal.
I suggest you gently encourage her to open up by beginning conversations about unrelated matters, in the long run letting her make a positive choice to disclose rather than confessing as the result of coercion.
You'll need an understanding ear and a large dollop of patience. It may take time but, quite honestly, it's the only way to move this situation forward. Your daughter will not end the affair just because you disapprove. You can be sure that this affair certainly won't last.
Make it your goal to become her shoulder to cry on by the time it reaches its inevitable conclusion. Prolonging your aggressively opposing position will only ensure she carries on, just to spite you.